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Everything Else Can Wait

 

 

 

 

 

Tonight as I lay down to snuggle with my son we visit for a few minutes before sleepiness comes sneaking in around him. I can see it in his eyes and feel it in him as I notice his body relaxing.

But my mind has jumped ahead. I’m wondering how much longer I need to lay here. Because if I try to get up too quickly, he’ll wake up. And there is a list a mile long of things I need to do:

Clean the windows.

Wash the dishes.

Wipe the counter.

Clear off the table.

Scrub the sink.

Pack my sons lunch for tomorrow.

Fold the blankets on the couch.

Put toys away.

Sweep and mop the floors.

Do the dusting.

The list goes on and on.

And when all that is done I need write another post for this blog, send a few emails, find a pair of pants that are long enough for my husband and order them, and send a couple thank you notes.

Without even thinking about it, I suddenly realize that I am becoming overwhelmed and I am still laying here with my son. My sweet, sweet, precious son. This is supposed to be a special time. A beloved time. A time just between the two of us and I’m not enjoying it at all because I’m too anxiously anticipating all that my evening will hold.

He is sleeping soundly by now.

I prop myself up on my elbow so I can watch him more closely. I love the way the dim light falls on his face. He really is a beautiful child. He lies there so peacefully, so calmly. I look at his long, dark eyelashes, his chubby cheeks, and his small hands. I watch his chest rise and fall, rise and fall, rise and fall.

And then, all of a sudden, it hit me…  It will not be like this forever.

There will be a time when his cheeks are no longer chubby and his hands aren’t quite so small. He won’t beg for me to stay just a little bit longer because he won’t desire that anymore. He will only be little for a little while.

There will be a time when the hours will no longer run quite so quickly out in the day. When I no longer struggle to find time to clean my house. When the house is quiet enough during the day that I can write all the blog posts that I need to. When I read a book during the day free of distractions and interruptions.

Yes, my house will probably be a little cleaner in a few years. The content of my blogs will be put together much better and more thought out. And I’ll be able to attend a few more Bible studies.

But my home will be empty of children.

And then I am reminded of Psalms 118:24, “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”

Just moments before I had not been doing this. I was not rejoicing but allowing sin and selfish desires to overwhelm me. I had neglected to treasure this fleeting time with my son that was ordained by God. I had fallen into the temptation to trade it in for worry, anxiety, and anticipation.

No more!

I will cherish this time.

Big deal if the dusting doesn’t get done. Who really cares anyhow?

This blog can wait another hour or day to be written.

So I decide to take the time to rejoice in my day, in my moment. I stay a little longer, hold him a little tighter, and love a little longer. I choose to treasure the child that God has entrusted to me.

Everything else can wait.

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Ladies, Ask For What You Need

 

I have decided that time spent in Scripture everyday is not a luxury, it is a necessity.

When I was a new mother I just could not seem to find the time to fit it in. Between changing diapers, wiping noses, cleaning up the spilled milk, painting over the crayon on the wall, fixing meals, folding  laundry, and washing dishes, washing dishes, washing dishes (we didn’t have a dish washer at that time and they never seemed to stop), all my time seemed to be occupied. At the end of the day I was simply worn out. But the worst thing was that I was starving spiritually and I knew it.

My husband, on the other hand, grew a lot during this time. He would get off work and tell me he needed to study. He would go in our room, shut the door, and be in there for nearly an hour.  All the while I was screaming inside, “When do I get to study?” Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy he got to study. I’m thankful he was growing so much and I got to serve him in this way. Yet, I craved that time alone with the Lord too.

Ladies, here is my point, it is not wrong or selfish to ask for what you need. I don’t think my husband realized I was not getting time with the Lord daily. I don’t think he knew that I was starving because I never told him. Our husbands do not always know of every single thing that we need, especially when we act like everything is fine. If I would have asked him to please keep the children for me so I could have half an hour to study the Scriptures, I’m fairly confident he would have gladly done it. He wants a Godly wife and a Godly mother for his children. He wants me to grow and mature as well.

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.”  –Ephesians 5:25-30

Of course my husband loves and cherishes me. Of course my husband loves me as Christ loves the church.  Of course he wants me to be nourished.  He would not have entered into marriage with me if he did not. So why on Earth do we think it’s selfish to let them know what we need?

I know you may be thinking, “But how does he not know I need________?”  Or “Why doesn’t he realize I need ________? I have dropped so many hints!” Ladies, I do not profess to know much about men but one thing I have learned is for the most part, men can be quite oblivious to our needs (I’m trying to be nice here). “Doesn’t he know that I need to go to the bathroom without a little person watching? Doesn’t he know that I need to take a walk by myself once in a while? I need that time alone. I need that peace and quiet!” The answer is that he probably doesn’t know. You seem okay with it so why should it bother him? If you need this time alone, tell him!

Think about it ladies, men are called to be head of the household (Eph 5:23). That means it is their responsibility to provide for the home, you and your children. That means that all decisions are ultimately his responsibility. That is no small task! If he makes a wrong decision for the family, it’s his fault. If he makes a wrong move at work and loses his job, what is he going to do? How is he going to provide for you and the children? To be quite frank, I’m glad it’s not my responsibility!

 But it does make sense that they have enough going on, plenty on their plates that they may not be quite in tune to our needs, even if we do drop very good hints. He loves you. He chose to marry you because he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You!  Not your sister. Not your best friend. Not his next door neighbor or even the girl he had a crush on in High School. But he chose you. He loves you.  He wants what is best for you. And he wants to know your needs too!

 

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